So in my first “Why Most Wives Don’t Want Sex” Article, we explored some “surface” reasons as to why wives don’t enjoy sex in their marriage. But in this article, I want to get down to the core reasons that most wives don’t want to admit to.
Some women say, “I just don’t need sex. I don’t desire it.” That is a bold-faced lie. Women desire sex and romance just like men do. We are all sexual beings literotica. Case in point: Married women are the main consumers for steamy romance novels, personal sex toys, and romantic movies wishing that was their life. So wives still do desire sex.
Other women would argue that marriage is NOT about sex: it’s about commitment and love and respecting each other… oh, and the kids. Who made that crap up? Marriage IS about sex… and commitment and love and respecting each other. They are all intertwined. If marriage wasn’t about sex, a person would not get upset if their spouse had casual sex with another person.
Sex is the highest form of intimacy and pleasure. It is the ultimate bond of two bodies, the intertwining and fusion of two souls. Who would not want that with their spouse… with the one that they chose to spend the rest of their life with? We should want that love connection regularly. Husbands and wives NEED that connection of intimacy and pleasure regularly. That’s why quickies are so awesome! You can’t always have a long romantic saga, but you can have a little fast naughty fun, connect with each and get some stress relief all at the same time.
So what is the real reason that most wives don’t want sex?
Wives become depressed, dissatisfied and unfulfilled because we view our husbands and children as the chains of bondage that are keeping us from our happiness, dreams, and freedom!
Man, that sounds so ugly! What woman wants to admit that? But I guarantee you that if a woman who has a loving family says she feels depressed because she is “losing herself” or has no time for herself because of her duties at home; then the bottom line is that she feels that her husband and children are keeping her from living. And that is the honest, albeit very painful truth. I know first hand: I couldn’t enjoy my marriage for years because I thought I killed my dreams with marriage and each child I had was another nail in the coffin. And I have 6 children, so in my mind that coffin was sealed pretty tight!
Let’s break it down:
1) With many wives, being a mom becomes a chore and sex with our husbands, a duty to perform. We convince ourselves that we have to live our lives for our families. Our husband wants sex so we have to give it to him. Our children need all of our attention so we exert all of our energy giving it to them. The house needs to be cleaned and the meals prepared, so we exhaust ourselves making sure these things get done. But at the end of the day, anyone who feels like their freedom is being taken away will begin to feel resentment and rebel. Most wives though feel like they can’t possibly deny the children. Thus, no sex with husband. What the wife doesn’t recognize though is that denying her husband is denying herself. She is self-destructing without even realizing it.